WHY LIE?

I This question has surfaced in a multitude of situations in the last few days. I really could even simplify it into Why do Men Lie? As that is how this post started for me but in all honesty its NOT just a Man thing. Don’t get me wrong…a big part of this post will deal with that but, we will talk about other thoughts too so a simpler broken down , question of why lie? seems to suffice.

This post may make you laugh, or cry, or contemplate why we seem to even allow it in our inner circles. lets begin with a pure, raw, unfiltered , character flaw, admission about myself.

MY “Partner Picker” is Broken!

I know you just chortled a little and said “What”!!??

I will repeat it. My “Picker” as a DEAR girlfriend told me in May is Broken…I am not allowed to pick guys for myself.

I Inhearently pick THE WRONG MEN

I would even go as far as saying I don’t PICK them but its almost like I have a “Bug Zapper ” above my head and the WRONG men fly in and get stunned and fall in my lap and I say “Hey, little cutie!!” Maybe they are just curious and well…I’m getting off subject. In all honesty The ONLY Men I’ve attracted Lately are Liars to the core. abhorrent Liars. and when they’ve gotten what they want, they continue to lie….and some of us allow it to continue, never finding what we seek, sometimes accepting that, its all that we are worth and accepting the mentality that its all they see in us.

lets catch you all that may or may not be “Online dating” or even dating in 2020 up to speed.

If 2020 were not already a complete fuckery of emotions…then Let me welcome you to the world of weeding thru deceit and douche.

Every “Chat” starts the same

Man: God, Your (Insert every adjective in the book) How are you even on this site? How are you not Married, or taken? Wow!! Blah Blah Blah…..

Me: “Ty that’s sweet of you to say!”

Now I have personally found that this is where the lies start to roll but not every guy is the same and it can literally be a mine field.

Honestly, as I try to write this blog post I am fraught with a tummy ache and realizing that this subject could be a book on its own and Cher singing pithy love songs about recognizing men’s bullshit and being STRONG BITCHES in LOVE and WAR is NOT lost on me but may also either make me cry or vomit.

in a nutshell, Lately, I have had a string of LIARS in my bloodstream. like Vampires. VampLiars ! I like that (I’m claiming this as a #JULEIGHISM)

*JULEIGHism are phrases I’m laying claim too in conversations or my witty banter.

maybe Ill use them in marketing or T-shirts etc.

Maybe a cross and stake set for Dating!! HAH!! YESSS!

VAMPLIARS……

Its like they get off on what they can tell you to seduce you to lay with them and the lies run from the absurd to the mundane and literally have me going WHY??!!

if your hot I’m done for whether you lie or not , but here’s the thing.

if you lie to me its going to hurt worse. then I’m just going to feel USED. Not important enough to matter. Broken,

WHY WOULD ABYONE WANT TO MAKE ANYBODY FEEL THAT WAY?

Nobody on this planet is perfect or has the perfect life.

WHY WOULD ANYONE WANT TO LEAD ANYONE ON?

Most women would say because they just want SEX and its one sided. But Why Lie? Even though we are not thinking about it 24/7 , WE like sex too! Most of us…lets be honest can be winked at and lay down. Yes, there are women that would tell you differently , but if people ….Humans…didn’t like SEX then the SEX industry would be null and void. If Women didn’t like Sex then their wouldn’t be THIRST TRAPS on TikTok with billions of followers in Grey Sweat Pants and Abs you could wash all of your Laundry on , Old School with LYE (haha LYE , LIES LOLOLOL) soap and Good Old Fashioned elbow grease while baking cookies from scratch ….I digress…Its a Thing! TRUST

if people didn’t like sex, there would be no babies! I think we would be hard pressed to find a woman that says ” i just do it to make babies!”

but Back to my VampLiars

When Men Lie to get you to have you, to be with you and when caught they are blatantly open and say…I don’t like commitment, or I wanted sex and told you that so you would sleep with me or ….whatever…??????

I guess what Im asking is ??? Why not just say….

My name is (Male Name) and I am messed up, have body issues, do not think I have my shit together, am addicted to Meth, Porn, Kinky Shit, Ice Cream and The Bad Fats on the Food Pyramid, Have a gambling problem, I will treat you like a queen but I won’t shower you in anything monetary except Macdonald breakfast coupons because that’s my second job now and I’m maxed out on 4 credit cards and mortgaged my home to pay for my wife’s hip – she is my second wife, well I’m a bigamist and sometimes nudist! but I said I would help with surgery, but don’t worry I’m telling you all this because I never loved her and want a side piece and in actuality you will be my 4th side piece and I’m working 5 jobs to pay for 8 kids that I share custody with 2 wives and I’m currently a cop with the DOJ and am writing a screenplay and was once in a movie and you need to sign a NDA and can’t talk about anything! I’m also currently living in my Parents Basement to help them out as they age, or maybe its because my 3rd wife torched my car and I like the Dark because all people are dicks and its nice to live in the dark and play video games while not taking any responsibility after the stock market crashed in the 80’s and I lost everything and may or may not have spent a year in jail for a child prostitution ring and for murdering my neighbors obnoxious dogs who never stopped barking because I may or may not have pissed them off when I shot at my 2nd side piece in the front yard when she said she was leaving me because I may or may not be a VAMPLIAR ( I thinks he read it on a feminist blog) and burying them in a shallow grave!! and I don’t want to tell you any of this cause you might not want to suck my Dick and I haven’t had sex in 3 weeks because everyone is aware of my BULLSHIT so Baby , I’ve been saving it for you and If I am being Honest its the Best dick in all the world!! P.S. I like to wear my wife’s/Girlfriends Panties and I’ve never heard of XXY but you Look TRANS and well that’s a bucket List entry for me!” If you Accept me for all my flaws then we will exchange pics ( Can I film us!?) and I will only text you when I’m horny and my harem is busy, so don’t expect loads of Communication because I’m not even sure how I got all this out!”

But they never tell you that.

or They do…..

*The last paragraph may or may not be things said to me in the last 4 months

sometimes…you don’t even get all that…Sometimes you just get unsolicited Dick Pics of “The Best, Biggest<Smallest, Prettiest Cock the free world has ever seen! See!! Even in images its just Phalluses….Falsehoods if you will

I would honestly rather you be super upfront about your “TRUTHS”

I am. I allow the other person to have full access to everything about me , so that they can then make the “choice” as to weather or not they want to pursue. I know everybody doesn’t. I feel this is why there are so many TRANS women and Men Murdered…Although it is mostly Trans women.

My personal opinion is that they want LOVE as much as anyone but by not being totally transparent about what they are bringing to the party…Some people may feel duped and then get angry. SO I’m NOT MALE bashing…I know Everyone Lies.

BUT AGAIN/// WHY???

Is it in an effort to be accepted? maybe?? but Logically that doesn’t make sense. Are you “Peacocking”?? I just don’t get it??

My dad you to tell us “God hates when you Lie!” “It makes him Sick!”

I know him Like Santa Clause…Jesus…and My Dad….Maybe this is a poor analogy….Nevermind.

I may not ever figure out why people Lie.

I know when Guys do it to me after telling me they want to date, Marry me one day and Never let me go….Or ” I really like you…The Sex is Amazing you should be a porn star, We could do it together! I need to run an errand…can I come to your place tonight and then you can stay the weekend with me and we will go to dinner , because I get payed on Thursday/Tuesday/Friday/Next Week…Blah Blah Blah” …Never to be heard from again! Well, I Hate that.

To quote the Grinch this holiday season I “hate that, Hate that, That, Hate that , LOATHE THAT!!!” I Know other people who hate that, as well! . Just Tell Me the Truth and let ME decide.

3 things I know for Sure…..

MEN AND WOMEN LIE (Sometimes ABSURDLY LIE)

THE TRUTH IS ALWAYS THE BEST ROUTE

My PICKER is BROKEN and My Tears after so long Sting like everyone who has been Lied to before this post and after.

also….wear your Garlic….put a stake in your purse and

BEWARE OF #VAMPLIARS! (even the sexy glittery Ones)

Today December 1st is Worlds AIDS Day

if your going to be promiscu…fuck I cant spell at 6am

If your going to fuck around then be responsible and be proactive. AIDS was a pandemic once too.

Condoms and PREP (TruVada) education and Knowledge…Arm yourself for better health

~JustJuleigh